No one will be able to explain for irresponsible man – how will feel his chaste wife when he will spend hours and hours (in service) with other women. Because He do not know what does it mean – responsibility.
Because he has no chaste wife. Why bother?
He do not know even what is driving him – he thinks that he is preacher, and for his “preaching” he needs constant access to other women – Prabhupada allowed!
No one will be able to explain for independent woman, how will feel her sons, when they will see how other men flirt with her in the abscence of their father. Because She do not know what does it mean – husband, chastity.
And she doesn’t have sons.
She thinks that she is preacher too. And for her “preaching” she do not need family, but total access in a perfect mix with all men equally – to lecture, to lead kirtan, to serve… – after all don’t you know “Prabhupada allowed!”
But they do not know what is preaching.
They do not know what is dharma and adharma, what is wrong and what is right.
They even do not understand what Prabhupada allowed. They do not know.
yad yad acarati sreyan
itaras tat tad ihate
sa yat pramanam kurute
lokas tad anuvartate
Very important verse. Ideal class of men therefore needed in the society. Therefore Vedic society is divided — ideal men: the brahmanas. Brahmana, ksatriya, vaisya, sudra. The brahmana, the saintly person, the sannyasi, the rajarsi. This is required. Imam rajarsayo viduh [Bg. 4.2]. In the Bhagavad-gita it is said that the Bhagavad-gita was taught to the rajarsi, not to the third-class men. Rajarsi, raja and rsi at the same time. Although king, but they were saintly king, just like Maharaja Yudhisthira, the ideal king. Bhagavan, Ramacandra, the ideal king, ideal king, so ideal that because some citizen criticized that “Lord Ramacandara, King Ramacandra, has accepted His wife who was kidnapped by Ravana,” and he was a low-class man, washerman, and still, the king, Lord Ramacandra, thought that “My citizens are criticizing Me.” Immediately He separated Laksmi-devi, Sita. This is ideal king, no criticism from the citizen, even Lord Ramacandra. This is called rajarsi.
So the king was very strict not to allow these things. The people were following. Yad yad acarati sreyan. The king was strict; the government was strict. Therefore people were following. So these sinful activities of the whole world can be stopped immediately if the government is strong. But the government members, they are themself, they are victims of Kali-yuga, so how they can stop it? Some big, big politician, when they enjoy, they bring naked girls and drinking, and this is their standard of enjoyment. So how you can expect good government? It is not possible. Why they should be bothering about people’s happiness? They want to occupy big, big ministerial post to enjoy their life. Therefore the position of the whole world is so deteriorated because there is no ideal man. All rogues, thieves, I mean to say, in very fallen condition. Therefore people are deteriorating. Dampatye ratim eva hi. These will be the signs of Kali-yuga. Dampata means husband and wife. Their relation will stand so long they satisfy one another by sex, rati. Rati means sex. Dampate ratim eva hi. And as soon as there is sex disturbance: divorce — “I don’t want you.”
Therefore you will find in these days — no wife, no children, no family. In Western countries they take dog as the best friend, and television. That’s all. Because this is Kali-yuga, no family. But he must have some companion, but he doesn’t want family, the botheration of family. Then dog is the best friend. What can be done? This is going on, and it will increase more and more, more and more.
Therefore, at the present moment it is a great necessity to have some ideal men. Yad yad acarati sreyan. Therefore we are endeavoring to create some ideal men, Krsna conscious men, their character, their behavior, their ideal aim of life. So those who have taken to Krsna consciousness seriously, they should be ideal men. The society will be benefited at least by seeing their behavior. And Caitanya Mahaprabhu has taught us, apani acari prabhu jiveri siksaya. If you don’t behave yourself as an ideal man, you cannot preach. Your preaching will not be successful. Apani acari prabhu jiveri siksaya. Because the nature’s law is that ordinary men, they follow the ideal.”
Vrndavana, September 8, 1975
So – “behave ideally” – means in the perimeter of your particular duty in varnasrama i.e., stri dharma.