“Mother,” no other address

The nutshell of education is defined by Canakya Pandita that “Who is pandita, learned?” So he does not say that one who has passed MA, PhD, DAC, no. He doesn’t say that. He says, “Any person who has learned to see like this.” What is that? Matrvat para-daresu: “Everyone’s wife should be considered…” Para-dara. Para means others’ wife. Matrvat, mother. Therefore the Vedic system is, when we address another woman, “Mother,” no other address. “Mother, can I do this? Would you like this?” The address should be “Mother.” Practice.

(Srimad-Bhagavatam 6.1.23 — Honolulu, May 23, 1976)

 ‘Your question is how much or how little brahmacaris should associate with the unmarried brahmacarinis in the temple. As brahmacari you should not mix at all with brahmacarinis. Actually they should not at all see the face, but that is not possible in your country. But so far as possible, remain separate and talk almost nil. Brahmacari is advised not to go near a young woman anywhere. A brahmacari should always address every woman as mother. In your country it is a little difficult, but the principle is to avoid. To talk secretly or privately is strictly prohibited. If you want to discuss philosophy and other matters you can discuss publicly in a meeting, but not privately. A brahmacari and unmarried woman in the same room together alone is strictly forbidden.” (SPL to Sankarsana, 30th September, 1972) read more